With the flip of the calendar, I was reflecting about the resolutions and goals we often set at the New Year and how so many seem to mysteriously evaporate as time passes.
For example, isn’t it curious that already in February, we start to see attendance wane from those freshly motivated, January gym-goers. Or, how easily a third cup of coffee slips into the morning routine, just a few short weeks after we swore that two cups would be our limit? (Full disclosure: this author is guilty as charged on the coffee topic.)
On a parallel track, I’ve also been reflecting how a really terrible situation can become an odd catalyst for change, renewal, and improvement. Echoes of a YOLO mantra (you only live once), don’t you think?
So how can we keep the spark burning, stay inspired, and keep moving in a positive direction with not only life habits, but also work goals?
I’d like to suggest that a measured approach, facilitating accountability, and a healthy dose of personal grace are three productive and effective responses.
By a measured approach, I mean setting realistic goals. Why not trash that heroic intention to hit the gym at 5 a.m., especially if you’re not a morning person? What about a regular midafternoon “exercise snack” instead? Or recognize important milestones with a quick morning text, rather than resolving to send birthday cards to everyone in your network? Wouldn’t it be more realistic to schedule a quarterly professional development webinar instead of setting a goal to participate in a monthly trade association meeting? Examples all of more measured, achievable goals.
Accountability is another characteristic that I have found compelling and character building over the years. The lynchpin is to cultivate an accountability partner. It could be a colleague, a trusted friend, or your life partner. The point is, set a goal and share that with another person. This person should be someone who will encourage you to stay on track in a positive way. It’s incumbent on you to honestly communicate exactly what you’re asking from your accountability partner – be specific about their actions and their most helpful support. Then do your part and be open and vulnerable and accept the accountability they offer.
Finally, find and demonstrate personal grace. We all could benefit from beating ourselves up less. We are human. We all make mistakes. When we stumble, we need to accept responsibility but also remember that the best way to grow is to learn from our shortcomings and mistakes. So, take it easy. Give yourself a break and some space for grace. I’m certainly not saying to stop trying or accept being “less than.” I’m only saying that when the inevitable misstep occurs, don’t berate yourself; learn and grow and course correct.
Rather than thinking about resolutions as a giant, daunting, annual exercise, perhaps we could all benefit from taking smaller bites. Maybe we set a new goal to check in with ourselves – and our accountability partners – on a more frequent, monthly basis. Cheers to 11 more months of 2025 – let’s make it great!